He is ready. I’m not!

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Your thoughts (168) He is ready. I’m not!

Puberty has changed your body, you go on your period and feel attracted to boys. It’s normal, including wanting to start having sex. Some girls wait until they’re older. Others feel ready to do it right now. That’s okay too. The right time to go there is when you feel ready.

Your body, your rules
Saying no might seem impossible or scary. But doing it right now will not be your choice. It will be for him. And that’s not okay. Write down a list of reasons why you’re not ready and practice your answers, like being scared of pregnancy, being unsure about your feelings, or wanting to wait until you’re little bit older.

Know where you stand
Let’s say he says you would do it if you really loved him. What do you say to that? Try this one: if you loved me, you would respect my decision to wait. Or he says all his friends are doing it. Remind him that he is dating you, not his friends’ girlfriends.

Protect yourself
Condoms prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. They are free at public clinics and hospitals.

Talk to bae
It’s necessary to have a conversation about HIV, getting tested and protecting each other from infections.Thinking about it is scary, but you need to protect your health.

You can change your mind
You’ve said yes but having doubts when you think about it. Or the action has started but you really, really don’t feel like sex and want it change your mind. It’s allowed

Be comfortable
If you freak out every time you think about doing it, chances are you’re not ready. There’s no need to feel guilty.

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Anonymous

He is ready for sex but am not....its been for 6 months....we now going to 7 Am really not...

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Onthatile

Tell him that u will start having sex when u a ready and that he must respect ur wishez. If he...

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4 days ago Report
Anonymous

Tell him that u will start having sex when u a ready and that he must respect ur wishez. If he...

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4 days ago Report
Michy15

Bae is 17 and I am 14 he wants sex i don't want to so i told him, he said its fine out of the blue...

2 weeks ago Report

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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Michy, thanks for your comment. No one should force you to do anything that you aren't ready...

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1 week, 6 days ago
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